Imposter Syndrome… Most people have felt it!

It’s so tough choosing where to begin. But, I guess I should start with where my journey began! Within a month of deciding to switch career paths, I found a couple of boot camps for web development. I looked through their courses and chose one that better fitted me. This course was a full-time, fast pace, 15-week learning experience that was split into 5 modules. During modules 1 and 2, everything was great! We learned Ruby for two weeks and then moved on to projects. Then learned Ruby on Rails for two weeks and then had another project! When mod 3 hit me, I began feeling so lost, doubtful, and overall struggling. At the time I decided to shove it all down, not deal with it, and just keep learning more code. Due to me not dealing with everything I was feeling, putting it aside, on module 4 I got struck down.

What exactly is imposter syndrome? In my own words, it questions your abilities, questioning if you actually know what you are doing? Comparing yourself to other classmates and what they are accomplishing. According to Arlin Cuncic from Very Well Mind, “To put it simply, imposter syndrome is the experience of feeling like a phony — you feel as though at any moment you are going to be found out as a fraud — like you don’t belong where you are, and you only got there through dumb luck.” This could happen to anyone from anywhere. It all comes down to not pushing it aside or saying whatever, but working through it. It makes me think of the line “Fake till you make it.” But why? When you know your good enough and everything you know is powerful!

The first step that helped me deal with imposter syndrome was talking to someone! Just being able to say everything your feeling takes a huge wait for your shoulders. Then, talking to some else takes even more off your shoulders. Another step was looking back and everything that I had accomplished in the past. It was a lot and in a short amount of time. And even if you are not in a boot camp or school, this can apply to anyone! Helping with realizing that a while or ago or whenever ago you didn’t know what you know now. Give yourself some glory or a pat on the back. The third step that helped me was writing down everything I knew and saying that I learned that, I did that and it was good. Rather than comparing yourself to others, just be proud of yourself. I know that easier said than done. It takes practice not comparing yourself. Start with when you notice that you are comparing yourself, tell yourself to stop or override that thought with a positive one.

Cleveland Clinic has a list of 6way to overcome imposter syndrome:

  1. Separate feelings from facts: It is important to recognize that just because you are feeling this way doesn’t mean it is true.
  2. Take note of your accomplishment: Save the things that remind you are going great!
  3. Stop comparing: Don’t hold your achievements up to someone else.
  4. Turn imposter syndrome on its head: Most successful people can feel imposter syndrome so for you to recognize that you are feeling it, says a lot about you!
  5. Talk to others: Talking it out with some who knows you can help you.
  6. Talk to a therapist: A therapist could help come up with ways to get past the feeling of imposter syndrome.